We all hope to one day meet our soulmate. That person that completes us and makes us feel butterflies in our stomach every time we hear their name…and you did it! You met your other half and are at the start of an amazing journey
I never imagined that when I was just 9 years old, I had already met the person I would spend the rest of my life with. At the time, my best friend and I were inseparable. As we grew older, so did her brother, and 15 years later, he proposed. Now, after over 25 years of marriage, I feel so lucky that I still get to annoy that same special someone every day. My husband knows all my good qualities along with all my bad ones. He accepts me for who I am and supports me and our 4 children in this journey we call life. I too know him -- the challenges he faced alone and those we faced together -- and we both know how fortunate we are that we are still in love. Don’t get me wrong. Marriage is hard. You will have your ups and downs -- but always remember why you fell in love. What made this person, the one you chose to marry, be “the one."
When COVID hit, we both started working from home, sharing the same home office and spending almost every waking moment together. There were many lockdowns; and we could not leave our home, so we are very proud of something during this time: we have yet to set each other on fire. We actually cherish what this time has given us! Our hearts go out to anyone who has lost a loved one or experienced financial hardships due to the pandemic. We chose to focus on the positive, the extra family time we gained, such as in-home game nights with the young adult children, who probably would have been out with their friends if the pandemic was not limiting their movements.
Where will you be in 25 years? Hopefully you will look back at this time and remember every special moment. Right now there is a wedding to plan, bachelor and bachelorette parties, rehearsal dinner, bridal shower -- the list goes on depending on how traditional you are.
Like any event, if you have read any of our previous blogs, you know that we make sure to give you everything you need to make your event unforgettable. This blog is no different. Not only do we give some event planning tips, as you have come to know, but this time, we added a little special something. Read on and enjoy.
Before we discuss logistics, let’s make sure this is the marriage that is going to last a lifetime. I imagine many people are giving you all sorts of advice right now. As someone who has been married for a while and has raised 4 children, I would like to share some advice I wish I had learned sooner. Just 4 years ago, I was listening to a lecture about relationships. The lecturer stated that the most important relationship you will ever have is the relationship with your spouse. As a mother, I felt angry, I felt that this was so wrong! My kids are the most important relationship to me. The more I thought about this lecture, the more I recognized how wrong I was. Statistically speaking, most marriages struggle after having children. It is common to put all the focus on parenting, and leave little time for each other. However, when you and your spouse are not getting along, your children are the first that will be affected. They are the first, no matter how young they are, that will feel the tension. When I think back to when my husband and I were new parents, with only 1 child, we agreed we would never fight in front of her. If there was an issue, there was definitely tension; but we did our best to pretend everything was okay, spent time with her, put her to sleep and we would then go outside to argue. Seems so silly now. Did we really think we were fooling this little girl?! They may be small, but they are super smart and are very aware of their environment. Always keep in mind, the relationship you and your spouse are modeling for your children is most likely the relationship they will look for. So make sure you make time for laughs, hugs, and growing together.
Why wait? Let’s start now! Plan the best wedding to capture the greatest memories that you will one day share with the family you have yet to build.
While friends and family suggest everything they feel will make this occasion special, focus on the most important ingredients that lead to your joint happiness. After all, the only people you really need to make happy on this special day are yourself and the one you are choosing to commit to.
The wedding planners and blogs are great templates and recommendations, but with every decision, make sure this is what you and your partner really want for yourselves. After all, we hope you only get married once. We hope years from now, you remember all the fun it was to plan your special moments, parties, dinners and everything else leading up to that special day, your wedding day.
Make it funny, loving, memorable, whatever it takes to make it your own -- and we made sure to provide that extra special something. Do you already have that "something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue"? We have that "something new" for you! Click here, https://www.silverset.com/collections/wedding and look at all the beautiful custom options we offer. Think of all the events you are planning and that one constant that we provide to remind you how to pull it all together. A special souvenir from the bachelor/ette parties, rehearsal dinner and of course the wedding itself, each dated and kept to remind you and all who shared these special moments with you about how it all began.
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